I came away with this:
As a society we have lost our ability to deeply feel. We live in so much more abundance than we ever did before, but so many of us have a scarcity mindset - a feeling of not being good enough.
Subsequently, when we face feelings of pain, depression, anxiety, vulnerability, we numb it - we hide from what we're truly are thinking and feeling. We numb them with medication, drugs, alcohol, being busy, distracting ourselves with TV, social media, we comfort eat, we go and do some retail therapy...When we numb ourselves of the undesired emotions, we also decrease our capacity of experiencing the amazing emotions of joy, happiness, and love.
Why do we numb our pain, I thought?
Perhaps we don't know how to deal with it and making it go away is just easier. We don't have the time, because we have pressing matters to deal with. We hide our true feelings for the fear of appearing weak or being judged. We check our true selves at the door, and we wonder how we got to the place when we feel like we are no longer at ease with ourselves, we don't know who we are anymore. We then seek a greater purpose and meaning. We search for ourselves.
In a way when we're vulnerable we're being honest. Brene says that vulnerability is the birthplace of creativity and a lot of other amazing things.
My favourite quote: "Being vulnerable is not the same as being weak." But you need to be audience appropriate when you share. "Share your story with someone who has earned the rights to hear your story!"
If you would like to watch Brene Brown's TED TALK:
Oprah's interview:
Chase Jarvis's interview:
Books to read: by Brene Brown
The Gifts of Imperfection
Daring Greatly
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